Nadya Suleman, Readers/Writers & Fertility…

I have officially kicked off the readers/writers page with an essay from a good friend and fellow writer, Chris Richardson. I published Chris’s opinion on the page Readers/Writers (here’s a direct link:https://astrologyandpsychicpredictions.wordpress.com/readerwriters/) although I don’t exactly share it. Please read her post first on the Readers/Writers page and then continue on with my conclusions. It is interesting to have Chris’s perspective because I feel it really represents the Pluto in Leo generation or the Baby Boomer viewpoint which is very under-represented on this blog. Please feel free to comment on her piece or on any post you want. Also remember I’m open to submissions for other voices to be heard as well on the Readers/Writers page.

I feel that Nadya Suleman is mentally ill and her children need help, perhaps even intervention. I’m more angry at the doctor and Nadya’s family for not intervening. In Nadya’s interview with Ann Curry, Nadya appeared out of it, unrealistic and suffering from some sort of personality disorder. She clearly also has a problem with lying which means she has a lot of shame. It’s my opinion that she probably has NPD. And, it hit me at some point during her interview that she paid for all the plastic surgery, and some of her children in a much darker way than she admitted to (she still hasn’t admitted to the plastic surgery, however). It was my strong hit that she at some point literally sold herself as a call girl, not something one can put on their taxes. 

To me the fact that her 8 children were born on 1-26 fits in with my theory of Aquariuses. All who I’ve read for have been (including myself here) entirely ignored during childhood, often to the point of serious neglect. And lets face it with 8 babies and 6 other kids, those little ones aren’t going to get much mommy time. I feel very bad for her children and its my belief that especially because Nadya has signs of mental illness, people should reach out and help her. It’s also my feeling that Nadya (being someone with NPD) was in desperate need of attention and wanted to be “special,” unfortunately the only way she felt she was able to fulfill those needs was by having more babies than anyone should have at one go. Also she wanted to surround herself by an a huge audience of unconditionally loving admirers, her giant brood of children.

If there is a cultural issue to blame, its this ridiculous fascination with crazy people who have had way too many children. I recently saw one woman and her husband on the View who had so many kids they had trouble remembering their names and birth order and how old they were. This woman used religion as an excuse for whatever psychological problem she had, and believe me, she had that crazy cult look in her eye like one of the Manson women showing up to his trial in the early 70s.

In a world with over 6 billion people and counting (2500 years ago there were about 10 million people, can you imagine, that’s less people than live in NY, LA or Chicago), global warming and places like China sterilizing people because they literally have no room to grow, it seems perverted to me that anyone should be so greedy as to have that many children. Not to mention the fact that the children don’t get to be children, they end up parenting each other and have very little one on one time with their own parents. We don’t live in the 1500s on a farm. Our world is over run with human beings almost to the breaking point of the earth’s capacity to deal with us. 

So everyone getting their panties in a bunch about Nadya is perhaps a good thing. Maybe it will force people to think about what it means to have so many children, not just in her case, but in all the cases of couples who choose to be greedy and selfish by surrounding themselves with a brood of admiring little people. It’s one thing back when the technology of in vitro fertilization was new and led to multiple births. OK, that’s not anyone’s fault, and it wasn’t purposeful. But when a person already has 6 kids, even going for another is selfish in my opinion. Even if you were a billionaire and could put every kid through college, give them everything they could ever want or need, you still couldn’t possibly give each kid enough attention and love, which is what kids need more than anything. 

Let’s look at the extreme situation of children (especially in Romania) in  overcrowded orphanages in Eastern European. These poor children were lucky to get their diapers changed and feed on a semi-regular basis, with nothing else, no love, cuddling, interaction. These children when adopted have exhibited incredible anti-social disorders, brain damage and often irreversible personality warping, even after just being in orphanage for 6 months. Human beings need love to grow, they need attention and kindness, encouragement and support. These are more essential to development than money or 2 opposite sex parents or really anything besides basic food, shelter and clothing. 

I recently read an article in Discover Magazine about new technology that will enable us to take a skin cell, turn it into a T-cell and then make it into either an egg or sperm. So a same sex couple could have a baby which is the good side of things, but the creepy side is a person would be able to make a baby entirely by themselves. For example your a single woman who wants to have children, you could have your skin cells turned ultimately into sperm and be implanted with your own sperm. Now that seems like the ultimate in-breeding. What kind of bizarre genetic problems will we create doing that? And also, we now possess the technology to actually extract unhealthy genes and replace them with their healthy counterparts. There are even ways to replace whole sequences, and to isolate genes to make people smarter, healthier, etc. 

So to me Nadya Suleman is just the can opener on a giant ethics problem we are starting to face. At what point do the rights of the parents or potential parents interfere with the rights of the children? One can argue we don’t want to go the route of China and God knows that is horrible what they put people through, and we certainly don’t want to emulate them in any way. However, is it fair to utilize science and technology in ways that interfere with nature and the fundamental human right to be nutured and loved by a parent without feeling like you are an orderly at an orphanage who is expected to help raise and take care of your brothers and sisters.

I don’t know about you guys, but when they interviewed Nadya’s other 6 kids, none of them seemed excited or happy about the competition coming home. They already seemed to know, all too well how hard it was to get what they needed with only 5 other little people to compete with.

As time goes on and we continue to push the envelope with fertility treatments and micro-preemies we are going to have to address these moral issues. If the Christian right is against abortion because it is the destruction of a life, then I would argue this is the same problem from the opposite side of the coin. The inability to provide your children with attention, love, comfort, food, stability, nurturing and a roof over their heads should be taken into account when science is called upon to step in and create a liter of children.

It’s one thing of nature does it, then, I’m sure we can all agree, one could understand getting pregnant and a few months in realizing you were pregnant with triplets or something. OK. You have to do the best you can. Enough said, but when you have 8 implanted by a doctor (or 6 that turn into 8)  and risk not just the children’s emotional and financial well being, but literally their health as well. This goes beyond morality into the realm of psychosis, mental illness and extreme selfishness. I pray that those little children do well and that all of her children have enough other influences in their lives to get what they need to be emotionally healthy adults.

I personally don’t think more than 2 embryos should ever be implanted into a woman. Twins are about as much as a woman can by natural standards handle. She has two breasts. We are not cats or dogs with 10 teets, there’s a reason for this. We aren’t meant to have litters of babies. It’s not healthy for any side of that equation.

Nadya Suleman, Readers/Writers & Fertility…