Insanity, Neglect & The New Age

It’s been awhile since I’ve had a chance to blog. Does anyone out there have a nutball in the family? I mean like an alcoholic, or a narcissist or someone with borderline personality disorder? It’s not very fun dealing with them. Not easy. They have a tendency to absorb all your time and energy by creating drama and making everyone in the family feel bad while turning themselves into a martyr. I’m sure most of you can relate. We all have someone who we have to deal with who fits this general description. I’m pretty sure that part of what fine tunes psychic ability is growing up with a crazy parent. It’s a heightened form of instinct, self-preservation. What will crazy do today? Be nice or kick me out of the house?

Every psychic I’ve ever known came from a seriously messed up family. I suppose being psychic is the consolation prize for dealing with insanity during childhood. Personally I would have prefered a normal family to “the gift.” But then we don’t get to choose sometimes, or perhaps I did choose before I could remember (on the other side).

Which brings me to a few points I’d like to make about how western people have assimilated the notion of Karma and Darma. We seem to have used it as a substitute for the old fashioned “God is punishing me,” or “I must be doing something right,” ideas. It’s become a New Age way of blaming the victim. I’m not sure if anyone saw the Oprah show about the girl who was so neglected that she was still in a diaper and weighed 30 pounds at the age of 6. She couldn’t feed herself, had lice and cockroach bites all over her and slept on a mildewed piece of foam. She couldn’t walk or talk and was still being fed from a bottle. She was cognitively still a baby from the severe neglect. Her name was Danielle and when her mother was asked in an interview about the girl she said, “All I’m guilty of is, is not keeping a clean house.” Then she started crying and said, “I love that baby.” And then when the interviewer asked the woman if she regretted anything (this was after the mother had been informed of the severe retardation she had caused the girl due to her neglect) she answered, “Moving to Florida.” Because Florida authorities were the ones who busted her and took Danielle away from her. This woman went out drinking constantly, left her child in the care of her two mentally retarded brothers and said to authorities, “I’m doing the best that I can.”

I was very disturbed by this story for so many reasons. The little girl was permanently damaged by this neglect. Although she was adopted by some kind people, her life was stolen by her sick mother. Children who suffer neglect feel invisible and those who suffer from any and all abuse feel its their own fault. This is a defense mechanisim. It’s actually easier to (as a child) believe you are the problem than your parent is, because you are completely dependant on them and the only thing you have control over is yourself, therefore if you’re a bad kid then you can change your behavior and magically your sick parent will become kind and loving. Of course this isn’t true but it is the fantasy all abused and neglected children have about their sick parent or sick parents.

Stay with me here I want to tie this mentality to many New Age beliefs. Louis L. Hay wrote a book in the late 1980s that broke down each illness and told you what was emotionally causing it, like you have back troubles, you are feeling unsupported. While I can see the value in how certain types of stress contribute to our physical problems, sometimes its really not our fault and we do not have control no matter how much we wish we did. Sometimes a person gets back trouble because they get hit by a drunk driver, or they fall down the stairs. Or they have a genetic disease. I have trouble with many of the New Age beliefs that don’t allow for chaos and the dark side of human nature. Many New Age beliefs hinge on a love and light philosophy where everything is decided by our souls before we incarnate and there are no victims and all is for the good of our development. Bull shit.

Pure and simple bull shit. There are people who throw monkey wrenches into our plans, there are people who do not live up to their side of a bargain and there are children born to psychopaths who treat them like potted plants and who steal their development and life away. How can this sort of serious abuse and neglect of a child be anything but the fault of the crazy person who could do that to a child and still believe they “love,” them. Why would any soul choose to incarnate into a situation like what Danielle had to suffer and what could she possibly have learned from it? She will spend the rest of her life with the cognitive skills of an 18 month old and when her foster parents die, she’ll end up in an institution. Does anyone deserve that? And if they do then why would Danielle have been rescued and what gives that mother the right to be so cruel?

The tangle of moral questions are too great to be answered with simple New Age platitudes or really any spiritual ideas because these are depraved acts done in the service of the darkest sides of their nature without thought or care of anyone but themselves. These people operate in the darkness of the unconsccious playing out their shadow selves while being completely unaware and unable to experience love or empathy.This mother clearly had some sort of personality disorder. She was completely unable to have empathy for anyone, even her own child.

Which leads to the question of what causes this incredible lack of empathy among people with certain personality disorders? Is it chemical, genetic or enviornmental or do they bring into this life some sort of spiritual lack that makes them incapable of caring for anyone else. These people often have deep feelings for themselves and see themselves as victims with elaborate justifications for their actions. They can turn their own evil deed into the passing stranger’s fault in a split second. They live like Plato’s cave people, in an eternal darkness projecting their emotional troubles onto others without ever seeing themselves or how they are hurting others. They never take responsibility or say they are sorry for anything as they see themselves as godlike, above all others, their emotions being the only ones that count. These are the people that bring chaos to our world, who cause wars, who are destroyers. They balance those among us who go out of our way to help others. They are the entropy to our growth. There must be a purpose for them, but I still haven’t figured out what it is yet.

Many blessing to all you kind and good people,

Denise

I’m Surprised…

I’m surprised no one commented on my rather scathing freak out about the right wing wanting to take away a woman’s right to her own body. I wanted to address a couple of things in regard to this. Firstly, this issue is far too complex for any government or religion to monitor or decide. And I will say that abortion is not a new invention of modern science, there are abortive herbs that have been used in all cultures from ancient times until now. Often when they failed the baby was left on a mountaintop to starve to death or be eaten by animals. 

I have very strong emotions about this issue because I feel that we are very complex creatures who have divinity within us. We are not just a collection of bones, hands, feet, brains. We are more than our biology and women are more than vessels for men to put their seed into and sprout another generation of people. Our world is overcrowded. 2ooo years ago there were 10,000,000 people who lived on this planet. Now there are 6,ooo,ooo,ooo,ooo and counting. We can barely give the children and babies who are already here a chance at a decent life, a clean healthy planet and a chance for a future. And the right wingers not only want to dictate the womb of other human beings and force people to jeopardize their health for the sake of an ideology that has shifted and changed (morally) throughout our history but they want to pretend to know the will of God. 

I love children and babies which is why I don’t believe they should be treated like objects, abused or maltreated. It is not fair for an innocent human being to come into this world with the anger and hatred of their mother who didn’t want them. This is the worst thing anyone could do to another human being. It is evil to the child, forget the mother. People who believe we are just a mass of cells should look at the divinity of all things and realize if God/Goddess/Great Spirit/Universe gave us the knowledge and ability to understand and control the flow of humans entering the planet, perhaps it was for a reason. Perhaps it was because we are at the top of the food chain and we need to excercise restraint as overpopulation is causing millions to be born only to starve to death. What kind of life is that? And people ask the question how could God let that happen? God doesn’t let that happen, we as thinking human beings, given the great gift of our intellect have let that happen by not using our intellectual resources to solve these problems and we (often through traditional religious teachings) have hardened our hearts to other people’s suffering. There are all kinds of ways to rationalize the pain of others. I’ve noticed that we have a culture of blaming the victim. Well, sometimes there are victims and there are abusers. And it is that black and white. In the case of children it is that simple.

No one who has hatred in their heart for their own child, or is under tremendous duress at the thought of having a child should have one. Having children is a blessing. It should never be a curse. And anyone who wishes to make it so truly makes me so angry that I don’t even have words to describe my feelings. Abortion is a heavy issue. It is a personal one. I would never want to have to make that decision. I’ve lived in fear of it all my life. I personally couldn’t do it. But some people are forced into this decision by other people, by circumstances or by pure accident despite every precaution they have taken. 

Honestly, I ask these question: Is it better to be born into a life of poverty, hatred, abuse, and neglect? Does anyone believe that the soul of a human being is created at inception? Or is the soul created by a higher force? Or is the soul created at all? Perhaps it is a part of God that is and always has been. 

Only in the case of a person believing that the soul of a human being comes from the fertilization of an egg, could the argument be made that a fetus or zygote is murdered via abortion. If one believes the soul is eternal than two things follow: 1) The soul of the aborted fetus will find another body to incarnate in if that soul needs to be here on earth. 2) Manifestation of the soul can not truly happen until the baby takes its first breath and attains individuation, taking it out of the all inclusive biological system of the mother.

When I got pregnant, I knew something was different in my body. I noticed strange changes, like time seemed to be slowing down, my eyesight changed. And I got a visit from my father on the other side. He brought me a beautiful little girl around the age of 7 or 8. She had my eyes but looked a lot like her cousins (on my husband’s side). She was laughing and running in between his legs, playing hide and seek. That’s when I took the pregnancy test and it came up positive. So far she is everything he showed me. Just like when the white light comes to get you at death and the spirits of your relatives are there for the transition, so it turns out you are brought to this world by a guardian as well. In my daughter’s case her grandfather. So the idea you are born and die alone is absolute falacy. My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. And I look at her innocent and sweet face and think of all the children who don’t have people to love them and it breaks my heart to pieces. This is the worst human travesty there is. It leads to antisocial behavior and serious psychological problems that a person can never get over. And this is the curse the right wants to put on our children. It is despicable. Everyone deserves a chance to be their best self and to be loved unconditionally by their parents.

I have nothing but anger at the right for this agenda as if having children were the punishment for being a Jezebel. They clearly do not value life or children at all.

Best wishes and many blessings to all you good people,

Denise