Will my youngest son ever get his act together? Born July 28, 1984. Married? Job? Not be a bum all his life? Thank you
I actually don’t think he’s a bum. He has a very difficult chart with so many planets in the 12th it may seem like he’s lazy but it’s not that simple. He’s actually depressive, suffers from a lot of unconscious fear and feeling lost. He would really love to have a family with so much in Leo, but he’s afraid of being a crappy dad.
He’s afraid of failing, he’s afraid of succeeding and thus he’s stuck in this weird and horrible paradox, trying to stay stationary which of course is impossible. 12th house stuff is often spiritual in nature and means there are things left over from other lifetimes that still cling to him.
Whatever happened in his childhood (this stuff squares a bunch of planets in his 4th house) was made more difficult by things that happened while growing up. I’m not saying anyone did anything directly to him it could have been entirely his perception of events – whatever he came into this world with was at odds with what he experienced as a kid and it created more obstacles for him which he has no real handle on.
With Saturn and Mars in the 4th (both malefic planets) he saw (and then Uranus conjunct his south node in Sag there as well, only reinforcing whatever negative stuff he had from his past lives) he saw the home as full of arguments/anger and a parental figure being very hard on him. This is square his Sun and Moon – both in the same exact degree of Leo 5 degrees, leading me to believe that if you didn’t raise him alone then he saw his parents as one unshakable unit.
Chances are by this chart that there was a troublesome marriage and a divorce that led him to feel a bit lost. And he felt you were not very compassionate to his feelings of loss. I’m thinking with Uranus trining his Venus and part of fortune he may have come around later and understood things, that perhaps, what was done was for his benefit, but it’s the unconscious stuff he can’t shake.
Also with Aquarius on the cusp of his 7th house he probably has a tendency toward partnerships (both professional and romantic) that are odd or unusual, perhaps role reversals, and with people who tend to bring out the worst in him (Uranus conjuncts his south node, again past life karma that is difficult).
However there is hope for him. He has Jupiter conjunct Capricorn in the 5th house and Neptune close in Sag there as well, meaning over the next couple of years there’s a good chance he will go through a positive transformation either through having a child or through some sort of creative endeavor. Encourage a creative outlet for him, he desperately needs it. He actually would be a fine actor or writer with Mercury in Virgo in the 1st house. Even if this endeavor doesn’t pay his bills to start with, he has a lot to work through and needs to do it through working with his creative/emotional side.
He also maybe quite musical with Neptune conjunct Jupiter in the 5th so perhaps it will be through music that he finds his way. There are a lot of potential creative things he could do, he’s actually very talented in this way, although he may hide it (all those planets in the 12th). I would really encourage him to put his energy into his creative side, it will really help him to sort through what he needs to in order to move forward.
I have to say that a normal life, like one your other children may have, this sort of life is not for him right now. He needs to explore himself and be creative. Be thankful – his chart could lead him into much worse trouble than he is in – (I won’t go into that because I don’t want you to be worried as I don’t feel that he’s on that level.)
He will find his way through some encouragement. It might be a good idea for him to live somewhere else for a while, somewhere he can explore his creativity. He really needs positive guidance. He’s young. It’s best for him to learn to trust his intuition, support that in him as it will keep him out of trouble. Otherwise if he lives in the fear it will cripple his development.
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Many blessings to you and your family,