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I’m going to start a page for prayer petitions for themselves or loved ones going through a hard time. If anyone is so inclined please participate. Sending good energy can’t hurt, right? The page on the site will be called: Prayer Petitions.

I must say that not all things can be cured this way but the prayers can at least help the person going through a tough time feel a sense of love and community. Always ask anyone who is sick whether they want people to pray for them before hand. This is of absolute importance. I will post requests e-mailed to me at: happypeopleusa@aol.com or you can post whatever you want in the comment section. We can all use help sometimes. I want to mention here however that it is my belief that disease can sometimes be emotional but is not always. I think we have a real problem now with magical thinking in America. In place of the Christian form of it which was, those who were good and pure begot wealth. We have this new secular version of it. This is seen from how fat ones bank account is to how healthy one is. The truth is that we can’t control everything with our minds as much as we’d like to think we can. If we could we’d all have gorgeous houses in perfect neighborhoods, perfect health and be wealthy beyond our wildest expectations. I’m not saying that being positive and trying to make lemonade out of lemons isn’t a good plan. I’m just saying “IT AIN’T MAGIC!” and The Secret, is bullshit. Sorry, it’s just a plain old unadulterated medicine show. There are truths to some of what is said in The Secret and one can affect one’s destiny, but it’s not as simple as sticking happy faces all over your mirror and memorizing a dozen (or more) positive affirmations. Things are far too complicated for that. One can not change their genetic structure, the toxins that inundate our lives, stress, other people who are nasty or sociopathic who we come into contact with, and a million other things. All we can control is our reaction to those things that happen to us. And that is for each of us to deal with how we need to deal with it. It’s not for anyone else to tell another person to “be positive” when they have AIDS or Cancer or imply that somehow they did something to deserve it.  This is tantamount to a “Blame the Victim” sort of mentality and frankly it is very upsetting. It shows how vapid, narcissistic and lacking in empathy we are as a nation. When I saw Barbara Ehrenreich,  on John Stewart talking about this I was relieved that I wasn’t the only one railing on about this topic. This quasi-scientific belief system is dangerous. Some people probably do have good intentions, but how would you feel if you found out you had liver cancer and told your friend and they said, “Just be positive. You’re going to get through this if you just thinking good thoughts.” Really, you’d want to strangle them. Not cool. Very lame. I guess she experienced this very thing.

And in reality anything negative that other people have to go through takes time from friends for real support, true empathic listening and lot’s of love. Things that we don’t value at all in our culture in the slightest. Things that hopefully we will learn through this crisis as we fall further into the black hole of rich and poor. Sometimes things just happen, sometimes people just randomly kill other people for no rational reason, take them off the streets and out of this world. For what? And is it ever the person’s fault who is murdered? NO! I don’t care if that victim walked down the street naked with a gun in their hand at 3 AM in South Central LA, that doesn’t give anyone the right to hurt that person. That’s all I’m saying here. Sometimes shit just happens.

And now for the other page I’m going to add. It seems that I get random information about people and places for no apparent reason. I believe this is from relatives trying to say hi to their loved ones and for some reason they’ve now decided to use me as a vehicle. So I’m going to just put down the information as received on the blog. No matter how crazy.

The page will be titled: Random Ghost Notes.

I looked up some of the names and their supposed occupations and found them to exist so I guess I should just put stuff out there and let those people who I’m getting messages for figure it out. I have also gotten information about abductions and criminal cases, but I will not put that up on the site, except perhaps a description of the victim and a feeling of where the crime occurred. If law enforcement wants to contact me via my e-mail that’s fine. I will then call them back and talk to them about whatever other information I received if I have anything. These things are strange and often disjointed. And I have no idea what the spirit/soul is trying to tell me. It’s like listening to a radio dial moving in the dark, skipping from one thing to the next. I have no context to put the information in so I can’t make heads or tails of it. But those who need the information will be able to I’m sure, which I’ve figured is probably why I’m receiving this info.

If anyone else gets info, put it in the comment’s part of the page. Maybe it will make sense to someone. You never know.

Best wishes,

Denise

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Ironically if I were to come down on a side it would be anti-abortion, but I firmly believe that if a woman doesn’t feel she can have a baby then she should not be forced to do so. I personally could never have an abortion because of the moral ambiguity but women will do it whether it is legal or not and if they are that afraid and desperate than it does no one any good to force pregnancy on them. No one should be forced into parenthood. It is too great a responsibility. And for those women generous enough to have the children and give them up for adoption, I think they are amazing. And rare. 

To address hopeandaplan’s judgement issue, I feel it is appropriate to fight and even have anger toward people who want to force their beliefs on others. Whether they want to control a woman’s womb, suicide bomb people of other religions or throw Jews in ovens. Anyone who feels they have a hot-line to God’s will is dangerous. As I said, I don’t advocate abortion and on a personal level could never do it, however that issue is far too complex and personal for any religion or legislation to dictate a broad stroke approach to. Same sex marriage is another issue that makes me insanely angry. It is a fundamental human right for adult human beings to seek out a partner and make a family with that person, whatever their sexual orientation. And it pisses me off that anyone feels they have the right to take away someone else’s happiness because of some “religious” belief. Here’s my religious belief, God/Goddess made all of us and we have no business deciding which people get to have the right to have a family. All I can say about a God who creates gay people and then smites them is, he doesn’t sound much like God. My God is not a jealous, judgmental, perverted sadist who creates people so he can torture them later by disavowing their nature and advocating their treatment as a second class citizens. If that’s God then who’d want to hang out with Him in the afterworld? He’d be one cold, mean spirited creator.

I know a lot of people site the bible to prop up their homophobia but the bible was written by human beings and many of their beliefs were primitive. Jesus came along to let his people know they had the wrong picture of God. God is a loving, accepting God. He advocated non-judgement of others. But that message seems to have gotten lost in the last wave of Evangelical zealotry. I bring gay marriage as another example of a religious group taking away fundmental human rights. Some day history will look back at this (if we survive our own stupidity) and see this as another human rights atrocity.

To get back to some of the questions such as: whether we pick our parents or not. I’ve thought long and hard about that for most of my life. And I’ve read several books on documented cases of people (or children really) who come into this world remembering in great detail their previous family. Often these kids died prematurely in their past life and were born into their new life with birth marks where the unnatural trauma site was from the previous life, the one that killed them. In pictures of both their previous selves and their new selves they have an uncanny resemblance and wear their bodies in the same way. These kids often insist on going back to the village and family they left behind, so much so that their new family eventually abides and it turns out that they show their new family the way to the village and go right to the door of their old home and know everyone’s name and remember their former selve’s likes and even recognize things that were once theirs in the home. I bring this up to illustrate how complex reincarnation is and over the years it has become my belief that our souls are meant to incarnate during a period of time to connect with people we have karma with and to accomplish our spiritual missions. Our parents sometimes may have karma with us, but not always, sometimes I think it’s a matter of timing and the right genetics that a soul gets fitted into a family. From the research I’ve seen on actual documented cases of reincarnation, it seems more often than not our parents are the best match at the time for the souls needs (in terms of genetics, time and place). Otherwise if we truly did pick our parents this would not account for free will and would point to a universe in which everything was more fate based than free will based. By that I mean it would require certain people to mate and certain times. And if this place is a school house free will is essential to our growth. This would also account for children born to abusive parents or parents who murder their own children, which sadly accounts for the vast majority of murders of children and most of the people who murder their children are women. So back to the issue of abortion. Was it moral for Andre Yates and her husband to keep having children despite the fact that she was becoming more and more psychotic with each pregnancy? And told by doctors that she shouldn’t have more children as it would push her to extreme psychotic states that could potentially lead to a psychotic break and the murder of her children? Andrea Yates had been in and out of mental hospitals and doctors had urged the couple not to have more children as the hormonal imbalance and extreme postpartum was extremely dangerous. Yet because of their religion they decided to just keep having babies and have someone from the family on constant vigil. It was during the changing of their guard that Andrea went nuts and murdered all three of her kids.                                                                                                                                                                                        

As someone who survived child abuse, I can tell you most of my childhood I lived in fear of being murdered. I’m not being hyperbolic. And I have seen the damage it did to me and my brother and two half sisters who were lucky enough to have a different mother but still suffered as well despite being much older. I can see the damage in all of us. In my case it probably enhanced my psychic ability which is also genetic on both sides, but I would gladly have traded it for a normal family life. 

So to answer the student, I would say that if a child is going to be born into this world as a punching bag, then yes, I think abortion is a better way out. Because I believe that soul will find another way to come through. My mother had 4 abortions, 3 from my father, 2 between my brother and I, and one after my brother. And another abortion when she was in her 50s by her boyfriend (my father was long dead by then). She told me about the abortions when I was about 11. At first I was very angry at her because I felt like she had murdered my brothers and sisters. But then after awhile I felt they were lucky. They had some how escaped the nightly drunken beatings, the moods that turned on a dime, and some things too horrible and dark to talk about. Some too painful to even fully remember. My mother wasn’t a young woman when she had the abortions, in her 30s and the late one in her early 50s. She had no excuse in my opinion. Why not use birth control? I have no idea. And I think it illustrates how little she cared about my brother and I. I often wondered why she had us at all after hearing about all the abortions. But I figured it was like everything else in her life, some sort of salve or bargaining chip to get what she wanted not because she had any desire to give love to another human being and nurture them unconditionally.

So again, I don’t advocate abortion at all and I understand people feeling it is morally repugnant, but I also understand what it is like to be a child afraid of a parent and I’m not sure that is any way for a child to live. This issue again is far too complicated and nuanced for anyone to paint with a broad brush. It is not for those outside the situation to judge which is why I only advocate staying out of this personal issue. And allowing those who have to make those decisions to do so. Maybe for some it is the lesser of two evils. And certainly if someone is raped or their life is in danger due to pregnancy then that is also another set of circumstances.

At the turn of the last century 30% of women died in childbirth and before the invention of the c-section the statistics were even higher.  I know a lot of people think it’s natural and don’t even want to go to a hospital, but in reality it is still very dangerous and many women end up in comas or victims of very debilatating strokes. I worked with a doula after I gave birth due to all my health complications and she told me in the orthodox Jewish community there were a lot of women who ended up in comas or who had such bad strokes they were completely unfunctional. This is because of their belief that the woman has to have the child naturally. So women still die in childbirth or come very close. This is another reason the issue is not so cut and dried.

The anger I expressed in the previous posts was over people who to put it generously are not informed about all sides of this topic and feel the desire to insert themselves into the personal decisions of other people. Again I do understand the anger over abortion in many ways because we are talking about a potential human life here and as a parent of a baby girl the idea makes me sick to think about. But if someone uses abortion as birth control they are mentally ill. And personally coming from a mother who seemed to do that, I can say without compunction my soul would have been better off incarnating through someone who was mentally stable. Having an abusive mother may have given me insight and compassion, or it may have given me nothing at all, except deep pain. I’ll never know, but I suspect the latter.  

And one more statistic I wanted to drop in was; people who come from abusive childhoods die much earlier and have many more health complications and problems throughout their lives. This is based on empirical research and data. I know personally that I spent most of my childhood being sick and a lot of my adult life as well. I think it’s from a subconscious desire to die. When you love someone (like your mother) so much and so unconditionally, and they physically and verbally abuse you constantly and consistently, it is extremely stressful and heartbreaking. And everyone knows now, stress and heartbreak literally can kill you.

Best wishes and many blessings,                                                                                                 Denise

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